Reinforcing the positive! March 28 2017
I was telling one of my clients about my new goal - to think and say only positive things. She has three autistic children and copes very well. We're into a lot of the same things so I asked her what she commonly uses to remain positive.
She told me that she generally uses just simple things - nature, music. But sometimes she just asks herself "Am I happy?" If she is, great! If not, she asks herself "Why am I not allowing myself to be happy?"
This was eye opening for me because in my family we have a tendency to hang on to things. So I thought that maybe in some instances I am not allowing myself to be happy because I want to be right, or because I want others to know what I have suffered.
So, I have been working on letting go. I don't want to repeat the same stories over and over unless they are happy, or funny stories.
Who wants to reinforce the negative? Let's reinforce the positive!